After class tonight, there was a mini jam at Little India and I was starting to get frustrated as I was quite tired and had wished to go back home ASAP to bathe and sleep. In the end, I was actually quite glad that there was this jam as Baby and I engaged in a debate, which I found it interesting to share.
Baby lamented that her cousins are starting to be "rude" to her nowadays. What does she mean by rude? In this case, she mentioned that they, both guys aged 24 and 21, used to call her "雪玉姐姐" and now they simply don't greet her. Upon hearing this, I gave my two cents worth. I told her that it was a guy's thing. I don't know about you guys but for me, I never called my older, female cousins "姐姐" as I grew older. When I was a cute little boy, yes. In secondary school, maybe. In poly, unless forced, I guess not. During army times, no way. It feels kind of weak if I, 21 or 22 years old, called my cousin, who is just 1 year older than me, "嘉雯姐姐". It just doesn't sound........... man. Note that it only applies to cousins. I still call my sis "姐姐", though somewhat reluctantly. Haha.
Baby kept insisting that her two cousins were taught to be polite and greet their seniors when they were little kids. Most importantly, it's not as if they didn't called her "雪玉姐姐" when they were young. I rebutted her by saying "So since you emphasised on upbringing, do you expect the cousin who is 1 year younger than you to even call you "雪玉姐姐" when he hits the age of 38?". I forgot what's her answer to it but she did brought up the point that her brother still greets the elder cousins "kor kor" or "姐姐". I said give him a few more years, especially after his army days. I don't know but I'm really interested to find out, though whether would I even remember about this issue is totally another matter.
So this was the interesting debate that we had during our journey back home. Of course, beside the guy's thing, I also cannot rule out the possibility that the boys have lost their manners somehow. Only they themselves will know what's the real reason, though I have a sneaky feeling that I might be correct. =)
Afternote:
While I was bathing, I realised that my female cousin who is 2 years younger than me, still calls me "Alvin kor kor" up till now. At first I thought, maybe girls are just better-mannered than guys. But all of a sudden, I realise I may have uncover the real reason behind it. Girls are notoriously famous for not admitting that they are old, so by calling their elder cousins "kor kor" or "姐姐", it will make them feel younger as in their mind, there is someone who is older than them. Evil.
