Underneath the Stars - Apple & Orange

Thursday, July 03, 2008

The fragile relationship between humans..

10:16 PM

Recently there has been bad news ard me in the relationship dept..

Break-ups, disputes, unhappiness.

It got me thinking.. Will you be able to forgive your other half if he/she has betrayed ur trust?

I doubt i'll be able to. And there's also the issue of trust.

Even if i can find it in myself to forgive him, will i be able to trust him again?

There won't be any trust between us anymore. If so, what's the point of staying together?

And even if we stayed together, i will expect him to tolerate me no matter wat. Cos... he did wrong first so he has to take watever shit i dish out haha tat's my view la.. though i noe it's not correct n the r/s will surely suffer over time, so i guess this actually means that i can't totally forgive him, Haha.. i can only forgive him for the time being and as time goes by i will start to harbour feelings of resentment.

I guess i'm not very forgiving huh, wahaha..

So saying.. How do u noe if this person is THE ONE?

Why do ppl get married?

Know of a married couple who do not... do alot of things together..

When they go shopping, they arrive at the same place together den go shop for their stuff individually, and they seem to not really communicate much cos they dun seem to know what each other is busy wif..

Perhaps they do communicate, i dunno but from what i hear... They dun really get to spend much time together. Weekdays are gone cos of work. Weekends, are sometimes spent with their respective frens, or otherwise spent at the same place seperately. So maybe they get to ve some quality time one day per week together..

Actually... why do ppl get together? Do u need to have a partner since we are normally busy with work 5 days a week, etc..

Food for thought haha

SnOoPy

Wednesday, July 02, 2008

感触良多。。。/ Jobless Chronicles - 61 days

8:29 PM

Something happened that got me thinking... Many have said that a couple needs time to understand each other before getting married... But exactly what timeframe is considered "good enough" for a couple to decide to take the next step? I know a few months is definitely not enough as I experienced it first-hand. But I know a couple that had dated for a long 9 years before marriage and now into the 6th year of their marriage - that's 15 years together mind you - they are about to get a divorce.

Sure, I understand that some things happened that forced their hand but it sure got me thinking... People change over time; John in 2008 might, and most likely, be different from the John in 2000. Mary, who decided to marry John (v. 2000) because of who he was then, might detest John (v. 2008). So what does she do then? Divorce? What makes a marriage click then?

Marriage is such a complicated matter. It's certainly more than "I-love-you-and-you-love-me". Yet more and more people are getting married at such a young age (including me) and consequently, more and more people are also divorcing at an early age. Is it true that older generation value relationship more? Perhaps but they might also have a trait, which could be lost in younger generation, that makes marriages work - Tolerance.

On a happier note, the chronicles of my jobless journey is finally over! Going to start a new career at this seemingly wonderful and creative company this Friday. It's a small company but its boss and my supervisor-to-be seems very nice! Can't wait to start work again! But first, I have to adjust my body clock, which has gone haywired with my jobless journey. Oosh! 加油！

Quote of the day - "The trouble with gloom is that when you're surrounded by it, that's all you can see."

Chipmunk